13 April 15

When Society Doesn’t Know Its Arse From It’s Elbow

… When did it become OK to look at another person and judge?

… Do you realise the harshness of your words, your stare and your assumptions can lead to death?

 Selena Gomez Dresses

 

Your insecurities that you put on other people is putting unnecessary and unwanted limitations and pressure on yourself and other people.

It’s time to cut the crap.

People who openly and publicly put down and humiliate other people do so to deflect on how they’re really feeling within. 

… Oh you say you are a stickler for rules, spelling, grammar, exercise, eating healthy or maybe you’re just “passionate” about it. Don’t let that false sense of righteousness or “passion” stop you from hearing the message and reflecting on your life… because that very urge, passion and need is blocking YOU from moving forward. That twitch of energy that goes through you when you can feel your body reacting… I urge you to not react but stop and think about giving yourself and them love.

People either genuinely don’t know or they do, but they’re not ready or maybe they don’t have the resources to fix it… so back the fuck down.

I think of toddlers and they dress themselves, express themselves and they know what they want, how they want it, where they want it and they are confident in their decision. They love that they are different and turn their back on being like everybody else, parents love to watch them use their imagination as they visualise and create a whole other world.

Adults look at the children and smile because of their confidence and freedom in their self-expression. Unless you’re the parent, then you’ve probably looking at them exhausted by their unwillingness to listen.

Then something happens…

We go through this education process and society says

“That color doesn’t match”

“You can’t play with those toys because they’re for girls”

“You can’t wear that color because it’s for boys”

“Sit up straight and pay attention.”

“You must learn reading, writing and mathematics”

“We are pressured by our friends to look a certain way, act a certain way and be a certain way.”

The children learnt it from somewhere because this does not come naturally to them.

We are in the middle of this epidemic where mental illness is at an all time high, violence against women is at an all time high and so is cancer, heart disease and obesity.

Why do you think this is? 

We are saying to children that everybody is different, but we live in a society where it’s one size fits all.
  • We are teaching them a one size fits all education system
  • Health is limited to food and exercise, forgetting that more importantly health is about much more than the physical body.
  • Beauty, apparently we define beauty and aspire to look like 5% of the population.
  • We need to “fit in” so we think that self-acceptance comes from who’s around us.
  • We are governed by people who thrive on bullying, judgment and public shaming people.

This is not limiting, it’s CRIPPLING.

They are forgetting to talk about the MOST important form of intelligence that there is on this planet.

 

Emotional Intelligence.

  • We need to teach people that it is normal to experience different emotions, it’s how we handle them that matters.
  • We are much more than our physical body, we have an emotional body and spiritual body. All three complete us, with any one we can not function.
  • Your mind is NOT your brain, they are two very different things.
  • Ditch the chemicals, the processed foods and the toxins we consume because they mess with our heads.
  • We ALL have feminine and masculine energy, same people have more than the other and it may not be which gender they were assigned. Get over it and leave them the fuck alone.
  • Without women there is no world, men step up and redefine what being a “man” actually is because guaranteed it is NOT what we are seeing in society. Call each other out when they’re being a dick.
  • It’s OK to cry, for men and women. Stop telling our sons, brothers and friends that boys don’t cry because it’s bull shit. You are destroying their ability to find love and happiness.
  • Remove the harshness around what you think about yourself and others.
  • How we connect with ourselves is how we connect with others, the relationship we have with ourselves is the most important one. Because it determines the relationship with have with everybody else.
  • Compassion, empathy, love, understanding, respect, worthiness, openness, kindness and benevolence are the most powerful tools for your emotional toolbox.

 

I am not saying eliminate the frame work, I am saying that together we can make a change in a profound way so that we can enjoy, live, love and stop unnecessary deaths and illness’s that are running riff in our world today.

 

There is beauty and love in every thing and everyone. 

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  • For me, it is about eliminating the framework – patriarchy – or rather the domination model of society that fuels so much of what you mention. We judge because we want to feel better about ourselves. Yet, in the past there have been societies where the overarching model of society was partnership and cooperation. Where the feminine and masculine were equally valued.

    Hopefully we can make the transition some time soon.

    • I know what you’re saying, but when I judge others I never feel good about myself… in fact I feel like shit. I agree we need to ditch the patriarchy and find that balance because it’s nuts that one is more important than the other… without one no on exists!

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